No ke aha i loaʻa ai i nā kānaka nā ʻīlio?

ʻAʻole hiki ke helu i ka nui o nā ʻīlio a puni ka honua e noho ana i loko o nā ʻohana he mau holoholona. Eia naʻe, hōʻike nā haʻawina e piʻi mau ana ka nui o nā ʻīlio i kēlā me kēia makahiki. I ka manawa like, pili ka mālama ʻana i nā holoholona me nā pilikia he nui. No ke aha i loaʻa ai i nā kānaka nā ʻīlio?

Kiʻi: www.pxhere.com

ʻO ka ʻīlio ma ke ʻano o ka ʻōnaehana ʻohana

I loko o ka psychology, aia kahi kuhikuhi i kapa ʻia ʻo "systemic family therapy". ʻO ka poʻe hahai i kēia kuhikuhi e noʻonoʻo i ka ʻohana ma ke ʻano he ʻōnaehana, ʻo kēlā me kēia lālā kona ʻano, e hana ana i kekahi mau hana e hoʻoponopono i nā pilikia koʻikoʻi. Eia kekahi, hoʻoponopono kēlā me kēia ʻohana i nā pilikia ʻelua:

1. Ka hoʻolālā.
2. Mālama i ka paʻa (homeostasis).

Inā hoʻololi kekahi o nā mea o ka ʻōnaehana, hoʻololi ka ʻōnaehana holoʻokoʻa. A he mea hiki ʻole kēia, no ka mea, ʻo nā mea āpau o ka ʻōnaehana (nā lālā o ka ʻohana) e pili mau ana kekahi i kekahi a me ka honua o waho, ʻoiai inā ʻaʻole ʻike mau.

He aha nā ʻīlio, ke nīnau nei ʻoe? ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻo nā ʻīlio pū kekahi mau mea piha o ka ʻōnaehana ʻohana, inā makemake mākou a ʻaʻole paha.

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He aha ka hana a ka ʻīlio ma ka ʻohana?

Hōʻike ʻo Anna Varga, Systemic Family Therapist, i 3 mau hana i hiki i nā ʻīlio ke hana i loko o kahi ʻōnaehana ʻohana:

1. Ka Hoʻololi. No ka laʻana, ulu nā keiki, a lawe nā mākua i kahi ʻīlio e mālama pū iā ia.
2. ʻO ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana o kahi ʻōpio. Kōkua kekahi ʻīlio i kahi ʻōpio e "pale" i ke kūʻokoʻa, ua hoʻokumu ʻia kahi pilina kūikawā me ia, hiki ke lilo i prototype o kahi ʻohana e hiki mai ana.
3. Ka mea komo i ka "triangle" (triangulation). No ka laʻana, inā ulu ka ʻāʻī ma waena o ke kāne a me ka wahine, loaʻa iā lākou kahi ʻīlio e loaʻa i kahi "hele ma waena" a / a i ʻole nā ​​kumuhana palekana e kamaʻilio e pili ana, a me ka hoʻokumu ʻana i kahi mamao kūpono, e hoʻemi ana i ke kiʻekiʻe o ka haʻalulu i loko. ka ʻohana.

ʻO ia ke kumu i ʻike ʻole ʻia ai ka ʻīlio i loko o ka ʻohana. Hōʻike pinepine ʻia ka ʻīlio a i ʻole ka ʻīlio makua i ka manawa i pilikia ai ka ʻohana a pono e hoʻopaʻa. A no ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i ka hana a ka ʻīlio i loko o ka ʻohana, he mea nui e ʻike i ka mea ma mua o kona ʻano.

ʻOiaʻiʻo, hiki i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe ke pāʻani i kēia mau kuleana āpau. No ka laʻana, huki pinepine ʻia nā keiki i "triangles". Akā, he mau kānaka paʻakikī ke hoʻomalu. ʻO ka ʻīlio he mea i hoʻomalu piha ʻia ke ola e ka mea nāna.

Hiki ke loli ke kuleana o ka ʻīlio i loko o ka ʻohana i ka manawa - pili ia i ka pae o ka ulu ʻana o ka ʻohana a me ka pilina ma waena o kona mau lālā.