ʻO wai a i ka manawa hea ʻaʻole pono e loaʻa ka ʻīlio

ʻAʻole mākou luhi i ka hana hou ʻana e pono ʻoe e hoʻomaka i kahi ʻīlio ma hope o ka noʻonoʻo ʻana i nā mea āpau ma mua, e kaupaona ana i nā pono a me nā pōʻino. Eia nō naʻe, aia nā "ʻāpana pilikia" ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka pale ʻana i ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi ʻīlio. ʻO wai ka mea pono ʻole e loaʻa ka ʻīlio a i ka manawa hea?

ʻAʻole pono e hoʻomaka ka ʻīlio ma kēia mau hihia:

• I ka wā hāpai. I loko o kēia manawa, makemake ʻoe e mālama i kekahi, e lawe i ke kuleana, a me kahi ʻohana ʻōpio, i ka kali ʻana i kahi keiki, loaʻa pinepine i kahi ʻīlio. Eia naʻe, pinepine ma hope o ka hānau ʻana o kahi keiki, hoʻololi ke ʻano o ka ʻīlio. Wahi a nā ʻikepili, hoʻopau pinepine ʻia nā ʻīlio ma muli o ka hānau ʻana o kahi keiki.
• ʻO kahi ʻohana me nā keiki ma lalo o 5 mau makahiki, ʻoi aku ka nui inā he ʻīlio a ʻīlio paha i ʻike ʻole ʻia. ʻO ka hānai ʻana i ka ʻīlio a i ʻole ka hoʻololi ʻana i kahi ʻīlio makua ʻaʻole ia he hana maʻalahi a hoʻoikaika ikaika, kokoke like me ka hānai ʻana i kahi keiki liʻiliʻi. Mākaukau ʻoe e hānai i ʻelua (a ʻoi aku paha) keiki i ka manawa like? A inā ʻaʻole ʻoe ʻike i ka ʻike ʻana o ka ʻīlio makua i nā keiki, pono paha ka hoʻoponopono ʻana i ke ʻano. He nui ka poʻe, auwe, ʻaʻole mākaukau no ka hoʻolimalima manawa a me ka hoʻoikaika ʻana, akā maopopo lākou i kēia wale nō ma hope o ka puka ʻana o ka ʻīlio a i ʻole ka ʻīlio makua i loko o ka hale. He kiʻekiʻe loa ka pilikia o ka hoʻihoʻi ʻana i kēia hihia.
• Inā lawe ʻoe i kahi ʻīlio ma ke kaulahao / i loko o ka hale manu me ka hele ʻole a kamaʻilio me ka holoholona. Aia nā ʻīlio i kūpono i ke ola, akā ma ke ʻano e hoʻokō nā mea nona nā ʻano he nui: ʻaʻole hele wale i kahi "wahi i pale ʻia", hana naʻauao, a me nā mea ʻē aʻe. Inā ʻaʻole i hoʻokō ʻia kēia mau koi, e hauʻoli loa ka ʻīlio.

Inā ua hoʻoholo maoli ʻoe e pono ʻoe i kahi ʻīlio, pono ʻoe e ʻike pehea e hoʻonaʻauao pono ai a hoʻomaʻamaʻa iā ia. A ʻo kā mākou wikiō wikiō e pili ana i ka hānai ʻana a me ke aʻo ʻana i nā ʻīlio me nā ʻano hana kanaka e kōkua iā ʻoe i kēia.