Pehea mākou e aʻo ai i nā ʻīlio "ʻino".

I kekahi manawa mākou, nā mea nona, me ka ʻike ʻole, aʻo i kā mākou mau holoholona "ʻino", ʻo ia hoʻi, hoʻoikaika mākou i nā hana i makemake ʻole ʻia. No ke aha a pehea e hana ai kēia?

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ʻO ka mea, ʻo nā ʻīlio nā mea ola. ʻAʻole lākou i pili wale i nā "message" o ko lākou ʻohana, akā i ka ʻōlelo kino o nā kānaka, a me ka leo o ka leo, a ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o kēia mau hōʻailona ma mua o nā huaʻōlelo. Eia kekahi, alakaʻi ʻia nā ʻīlio i nā kūlana hikiʻole ke hoʻomaopopo ʻia e kahi kanaka koʻikoʻi - a no kā mākou mau hoa wāwae ʻehā, ʻo ia ka mea a lākou e manaʻo ai he mea nona. ʻO ia ke kumu e pili pono ai ka ʻano o ka mea nāna e like me nā ʻīlio ʻē aʻe i ka ʻano o kāu ʻīlio.

He paʻakikī ke nānā iā ʻoe iho, akā inā he ʻelua ʻīlio kāu, no ka laʻana, hiki iā ʻoe ke nānā iā lākou. Inā ʻoluʻolu nā holoholona, holo pū lākou (a like nā neʻe ʻana i kekahi manawa), hiamoe a pāʻani i ka manawa like, a inā ʻo kekahi ʻīlio, a laila kākoʻo ka lua. A ʻoi aku ka nui o ka hoʻopili ʻana, ʻoi aku ka nui o ka ʻīlio "hoʻohui" i kāna ʻano me kekahi ʻīlio a kanaka ʻē aʻe.

Ua alakaʻi nā kānaka ʻepekema Farani ʻo Charlotte Duranton lāua ʻo Florence Gaunet i ka noiʻi ma 2015 a me 2017, kahi i alakaʻi ai i kēia mau hopena:

Nui ka ʻīlio i ka heluhelu ʻana i nā hōʻailona o nā kānaka.
ʻO ke kūlana manaʻo o ka mea nāna e pili i ka hana a ka ʻīlio.
ʻO ke ʻano kanaka (me kona nānā ʻana) pili i ka ʻano o ka ʻīlio.
Nānā like ka ʻīlio me ka mea nona ka ʻīlio.
Ma kekahi kūlana hikiʻole ke hoʻomaopopo, kali ka'īlio i nā hōʻailona mai ka mea nona ka hale.

No laila inā i ka hoʻoponopono ʻana i ka ʻano "ʻino" o ka ʻīlio, ʻaʻole hoʻololi ka mea nona kāna ʻano ponoʻī, ʻaʻole pono ʻoe e manaʻo i ka kūleʻa.

E lawe i ka pilikia o ka hana ʻīlio e like me ka makaʻu. Pehea e aʻo ai ke kanaka i ka ʻīlio e makaʻu?

ʻO ke ʻano hopohopo a manaʻo mana. Inā makaʻu ka mea nāna i nā mea a pau a ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke hāʻawi i ke kākoʻo kūpono i ka ʻīlio, pehea e hiki ai iā ia ke koa?
E lawe mai i unpredictability, chaos i loko o ke ola o ka ʻīlio a hoʻopaʻi iā ia. ʻO ka hikiʻole a me ka hoʻopaʻi ke ala maikaʻi loa e hoʻonele ai i ka'īlio i ka hilinaʻi iā ia iho a me ka palekana o ka honua a puni ia.
ʻO ka hoʻoikaika ʻana i ka makaʻu me ka ʻike ʻole ʻia (e laʻa, ka miki ʻana i ka ʻīlio i kona makaʻu, a i ʻole ka haʻi ʻana iā ia me ka leo aloha: “ʻAe, ʻīlio maikaʻi, mai makau oe”).

Hoʻoikaika ʻia ka hana "ʻino" i ka wā e kamaʻilio aloha ai ka mea nona ka ʻīlio a hoʻowalewale iā ia me ka hoʻohana ʻana i nā māka o ke ʻano kūpono "ʻAe, ʻoe. ʻīlio maikaʻiNo ke aha ʻoe e hana nei i kēia?" a i ʻole i ka wā e loaʻa ai ka ʻīlio i kāna mea e pono ai ma muli o kāna mau hana (e like me ka nānā ʻana o ka mea nona a i ʻole kahi ʻāpana mai ka papaʻaina).

Nalo ka hana i hooikaika ole ia. No laila, he mea koʻikoʻi ka mea ʻaʻole e hoʻoikaika i ka hana "ʻino", a mau, ʻaʻole i kēlā me kēia manawa - ma hope o nā mea a pau, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka hoʻololi ʻana ma mua o ka mau.

Manaʻo ka poʻe he nui ka ʻae ʻana i ka ʻīlio i ka mea i pāpā mau ʻia, i hoʻokahi manawa, ʻaʻole ʻeha. Akā, ʻaʻole maopopo i ka ʻīlio ia manaʻo. He mea nui iā ia ke kūpaʻa. A ʻo ka mea i pāpā mau ʻia e ʻae mau ʻia.

ʻO ka nui o ka hōʻike ʻia ʻana o ka ʻīlio "ʻino" e hilinaʻi pinepine ʻia i ka mea nona - ma kona hiki ke hoʻomaʻamaʻa i kahi holoholona, ka ʻike i ke ʻano o ka psychology ʻīlio a me nā ʻano hana āna e koho ai.